Valentine’s Day can be a tough holiday. Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve learned over the years to take the day in stride, no matter my situation. Spending it with a significant other is great—a romantic night to celebrate your love (or, if it’s early, your “like”) for one another. Cute little presents. An outfit you’ve been dying to wear. But, you know what? Spending it with girlfriends or even by yourself can be just as great, too.
Something I’ve learned this year is the true value of female friendships. Your girlfriends are your support system through it all. They’re there for you, and you for them. It’s an unshakeable, unbreakable bond. If you’re lucky, you’ll find a group of girlfriends whose wins feel like your wins, and you’ll support each other and lift each other up every step of the way. Galentine’s Day is a way to celebrate that special bond.
Another thing I’ve come to peace with this year is being completely happy with myself. Quiet moments of solitude and reflection. Happy in my own company, so to speak. Proud of the woman I am, and thus, I’m able to sit with myself and my feelings. In the past, I might have shied away from such silence; being alone with my thoughts and unhappiness to dwell on. With a lot of work and commitment to self-love, I’ve moved past that place. And so, if I were faced with the prospect of spending Valentine’s Day alone, I could look myself in the mirror and say: I’m OK with this. In fact, I’d welcome it.
Whatever your plans are this year, know that you are enough. Don’t let this artificial holiday impact even an ounce of your self-worth. You are the only force that can dictate that. It’s just that—artificial. I don’t mean to be a scrooge, but, you shouldn’t need a calendar holiday to show your S.O., girlfriends, or even yourself some love. Spread love daily, and you’ll receive love in return. Spread kindness daily, and you’ll receive kindness in return.
I’m sending you all good vibes this year. 2022, we’re coming for you!